- How to appear confident
How to appear confident
How to appear more confident!
What is confidence?
Confidence is the feeling of really believing in yourself. Nothing can stop you realising your full potential.
A confident person usually has little doubt in their abilities. They know what they want and they usually know how to get it.
Some other words used to describe a confident person are: brave, bold, courageous, assertive, positive and self-assured.
Confident people are generally:
- more self-aware (they know who they are, what they can do, and where they want to be)
- more popular (they’re fun to be around - they usually make things happen)
- more successful ( they’re always looking for new and better opportunities)
- more employable (they look like do-ers! )
- more balanced (they work hard and play hard)
- more positive (they don’t do negativity even if something goes wrong)
- able to deal with stress and failure (they don’t let failure get them down)
So how do you become confident? Confidence is a mind game you play with yourself. It’s part of your attitude. If you want to be a confident person – you have to have a positive attitude. Negative people who moan all the time are not generally confident people.
Confidence is a tool which should be listed in your skill set.
If you can manage your attitude you – you can manage your confidence - and then all kinds of fantastic opportunities may come your way.
10 Ways to make people think you’re confident
1. Have good posture:
Stand up straight, shoulders back, or sit up straight. Slouching in a chair with feet up on a table, does not say confidence. It says lazy.
2. Look people straight in the eye when you’re talking to, or listening to them.
3. Dress neatly.
Iron your clothes. Take pride in what you wear. You don’t have to have expensive, fashionable clothes. They just have to be clean and neat.
4. Shake hands firmly.
In some cultures this may be different. In the western work place, however, a firm handshake represents a confident can-do person.
Everyone looks a lot better and friendlier when they smile.
6. Speak clearly and directly.
Don’t mumble your words into your chest.
Laugh at yourself. Fun, confident people laugh. It can be used as an ice-breaker to make others around relax.
8. Be respectful of everyone around you.
No matter their age, religion, race or where they come from etc, treat people the way you’d like people to treat you.
9. Compliment people and accept compliments in return.
Be appreciative and say thank you and smile. Don’t be negative or make out the person is lying. If you do, they may not compliment you again.
10. Value yourself.
If you think you’re special, people around you will think you are too!
Warning: 10 Things to try and avoid doing:
1. Avoid pretending.
Don’t be someone you’re not. People will ‘see’ you’re acting.
2. Avoid looking for attention.
Don’t be in-your-face, extremely loud and/or ALWAYS the centre of attention. Confident people are not necessary necessarily the loudest and craziest.
3. Avoid criticising others.
Don’t put other people down. Rather find something nice to say or don’t say anything at all.
4. Avoid being too demanding or bossy.
Other people don’t usually like being told what to do.
5. Avoid stealing the conversation.
Make sure everyone around you gets a turn to be part of the conversation. Ask questions. Include others. Make sure it’s not always about YOU!
6. Don’t let other people’s negative comments get you down.
7. Try and avoid sitting in a corner by yourself.
If you’re at a social gathering, get up and move around the room. Meet new people, or invite others to sit with you.
What’s the worst that can happen? Without a little risk in life nothing will be achieved. We all have to push our own boundaries to reach new goals.
9. Try avoid saying no to invitations.
All kinds of good opportunities may be waiting for you.
10. Don’t forget to say thank you.
No matter how small the gesture - always say thank you.
Building confidence is a work in progress. So start now. The more confident you become the easier it gets. And the easier it gets, the more opportunities, invitations etc may come your way.
Confident people are like magnets – we want to be around them.
They’re inspiring, they get things done, they have fun, they see the world as one big life experience and they’re living it. It’s time you did too. Believe in yourself.
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‘If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started.’ - Marcus Tullius Cicero
‘A boss creates fear, a leader confidence. A boss fixes blame, a leader corrects mistakes. A boss knows all, a leader asks questions. A boss makes work drudgery, a leader makes it interesting.’ - Russell H. Ewing
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